Saturday, November 15, 2008

I am the AWESOMEST

I do matchmaking for a website called SawYouAtSinai. For those of you who are not Jewish, let me explain. For many Orthodox Jews, people are still matched by parents, matchmakers and friends before going on dates. There are lots of Jewish dating websites out there, but this is the only one where a matchmaker has to set you up before you can see the other person's profile. There's no searching on your part--it's all 3rd party. I know that when most people hear "matchmaking" they're thinking Fiddler on the Roof and not meeting your spouse until the wedding day. That just doesn't happen in Judaism any more. People are set up, they go on dates, and if they're not compatible, they end it--if they are compatible, then they go on more dates. Some people date for a month and get engaged, some for three months, some for longer (generally, the more Orthodox you are, the less time you spend dating the person before getting engaged and the less time there is between engagement and the wedding). In any case, I just made my first official shidduch (match) on the website!! Oh, I've had many people go on dates since I first started matching with them 2 years ago, but no engagements--until now!! The man is a 40-year-old who has never been married before and the woman is a 30-year-old widow. I'm soooo happy for them and wish I could make it to the wedding. Unfortunately it's on a Tuesday night in December, and I don't have any more vacation days. Nor do I want to drive to NYC all by myself... Anyways, this makes me the awesomest!

No news back from the doctor on my possible UTI--but I will be calling them on Monday to get results and see what has to be done.

3 comments:

margelina said...

Wow, that's really interesting! Congrats on the match!! What kind of criteria do you judge on before matching people up? HOw did you determine this one in particular?
You are the most awesome!!!

Elana Kahn said...

The profiles are pretty comprehensive and give criteria on what the person is looking for--that way if someone is Orthodox, you don't match them with someone who is Reform. They also have "personal statements" (which basically gives the person a chance to tell more about themselves than the multiple choice answer questions and describe the type of person they're looking for).

the mol said...

My mom said that making three matches for people is supposed to be a good thing...I forget what happens though.

She has made two good matches, not three yet. One was her cousin, and they've been married for about 36 years. The other was two friends that she happened to know who were single and she hooked them up.