Friday, April 17, 2009

To Wait or Not To Wait

DISCLAIMER: If you are related to me and/or do not wish to read about "personal" stuff, please do not read this post. Thank you! :-)

Ok ladies (and gents?), I have not been with my husband since October. First it was placenta previa, then I had the cerclage put in, and finally I gave birth. It's been about 6 months and I'm finished waiting. My 6 week postpartum checkup isn't for another week and a half, but I'm not bleeding anymore. According to Jewish law, I will be allowed to be with him this Sunday night. What do I do? Wait the week and a half or say to heck with it and tackle him on Sunday? All comments are welcome!

23 comments:

Deborah said...

If you're not in any pain, go for it! I think 6 weeks is more an estimate of when they think you'll be ready, anyway.

the mol said...

Go on and get busy!

Christina said...

I say go for it especially since you aren't bleeding.

ssbean said...

I have heard 4wks from some sources. So, I say go for it.

The Captain's Wife said...

I say go for it...however and I say this In CAPS...I "went for it" at 4.5 weeks...and well, had to wait an extra 2 weeks to begin birth control (not sure if you practice BC) because the condom came off in the midst of our of so awaited fun....It was a very tense 2 weeks waiting and wondering......

WiseGuy said...

Well Elana, as much as I would want you and DH to get cozy, there is a small thing I would say. My opiniion is strictly ignorable.

You have already spent so much time maintaining the distance that waiting for week postpartum checkup isn't for another week and a half is not a big thing. (Am I sounding sadistic)? I don't want anything to happen to you. Only when the doctor says a-OK, you do it.

I just want to be on the safer side.

And even if you do....don't get wild, you guys!

Nikki said...

I say tackle him! :-)

aunt-becca said...

we had a similar issue. Niddah ended but I hadn't had my 6 week checkup. I went for a dip at the mikvah, but we waited to have sex because I was afraid since we didn't have the go ahead. Since you had so many issues, it may be better to wait the extra week and a half.

Celia said...

Maybe you could skip penetration. Ahem.

I would suggest plenty of water and some yogurt to make sure it is nice and comfortable down there.

In Due Time said...

Did you wait? LOL :-)

I don't think I could have. ;-)

Kristin said...

If you aren't in any pain and you aren't bleeding, go for it! Hope you had a good night whatever you decided!

~ICLW

Carrie27 said...

If you are up to it, I say tackle him. That was always my rule, at least.

Villagepig said...

Fomr ICLW:

hahahaha what a fab landing post to come in on :-)

I think you should stop and think, 'what would your husband do?' :-)

VP

Jill said...

I say go for it, if you're not in any pain! I'm sure he'd agree!

ICLW

Gina said...

I'm not sure since I've never gone through it, but if you are feeling o.k. I say go for it!

ICLW

Jen said...

ICLW-er here. What a great post to respond to! I think this falls in the "every woman is different" category. If you're ready emotionally and feel relatively ok physically, go for it!

Mrs. Gamgee said...

At this point I'm sure you've made your move... one way or the other ;) I just want to reiterate what another commenter made, that every woman is different and if you feel ready, then go for it!

Happy ICLW!

Cece said...

Jump him! But use protection. Take this advice from a woman who never though she'd have to worry about it, and is pregnant with twins while caring for her 4 month old.

: )

UnicornMommy said...

Does the Jewish Law have a big impact on what you do?

If not, have at it.

ICLW

Mr. Shelby said...

I'd say, do it twice for good measure :)

(Hey, I'm a guy, what do you expect?)

-Mr. Shelby (from ICLW)

babymakinchronicles said...

Girl, you are a saint!
Jump that man and have your wicked way with him!!!!!!!!

ICLW

Beautiful Mess said...

I'm with In Due Time...DID you wait?! Inquiring minds want to know ;o) I didn't wait the 6 weeks after my son but Husband was VERY careful. I was on bed rest and pelvic rest for MONTHS. Poor guy, I felt bad for him...lol
*ICLW*

PS...LOL @ Celia's comment!

Look What A Bargain said...

I would not have relations without the go ahead from the doctor, esp since you had a cerclage. if you waited this long, you can survive another week, just my 2 cents...