tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935341298511526620.post629329860766268105..comments2023-10-03T12:35:56.477-04:00Comments on Elana's Musings: Really DepressedElana Kahnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17800005978714797988noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935341298511526620.post-56565563446580088682011-05-17T00:02:07.712-04:002011-05-17T00:02:07.712-04:00Here from LFCA -
I think you'll find that th...Here from LFCA - <br /><br />I think you'll find that there is a certain segment of the population who believes everyone will sue, if the opportunity presents itself. My in-laws refused to cosign on cars for their children because they would be liable in the event of an accident. Instead, they would buy the car in the child's name and have the children pay them in installments for the car. This is completely foreign to me and not at all the way my family operated. And then I cosigned on cars for a loser boyfriend, who proceeded to get parking tickets which were attributed to me...and I see their point.<br /><br />Maybe, to minimize your resentment of the interference, you could try to look at it as the family trying to protect you. And then tell them that you appreciate their concerns, but you're insured, and you trust your friend and believe she's doing much more than your children would get elsewhere.<br /><br />Good luck...areyoukiddingmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16107214079237461141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935341298511526620.post-19322647595755911982011-05-16T01:18:35.835-04:002011-05-16T01:18:35.835-04:00Just as a precaution, or if the family insists...y...Just as a precaution, or if the family insists...you can install cameras in your living room/wherever the kids play?St Elsewherehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08074672268757885766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935341298511526620.post-11952071407154527532011-05-16T01:17:07.423-04:002011-05-16T01:17:07.423-04:00Well, I hope the 'involved' people have re...Well, I hope the 'involved' people have read this post of yours. Every party must know what this crisis has wrecked on you.<br /><br />Even though you say something happened while family was visiting, you haven't specified what, and I am assuming a kid got hurt.<br /><br />I think you and Shmuel must speak jointly to the family.<br /><br />It seems you are happy with your babysitter, and your other friends have also trusted you and the babysitter with their kids.<br /><br />Unless a trust issue is involved or what the babysitter did was outrageous and very careless, I do not see any reason why you should let her go.<br /><br />But families are important, and I think that you as a couple must talk to them. This will be tough, but it has to be done.St Elsewherehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08074672268757885766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935341298511526620.post-71602424949228796772011-05-15T23:58:01.812-04:002011-05-15T23:58:01.812-04:00It seems like you are happy with the child care si...It seems like you are happy with the child care situation, but unhappy with your parents' (well-meaning) interference. So keep the child care arrangements (maybe put together some kind of non-liability contract for the other kids for comfort's sake). Regarding your family, if you continue to engage in conversations on this topic with them, they will take that as a sign that they have input into the situation. So stop discussing it with them; if they bring it up, say that you've considered their input, but you've made your decision, and it's not up for discussion. <br /><br />Good luck. I'm sorry; I know family dynamics can be tough.Wehafhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10181985355367212602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935341298511526620.post-32816660227221660712011-05-15T20:15:17.553-04:002011-05-15T20:15:17.553-04:00They are your children. While your family is tryi...They are your children. While your family is trying to look out for you, the ultimate decision of who cares for them is yours. <br /><br />You are beating yourself up too much about this, chin up! A happy child is the best evidence of good care.Celiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07681663732376253772noreply@blogger.com